Here comes my first post in a series that is seemingly unrelated to anything and everything I will have ever posted here. However, this is a blog in my journey where I live less invisibly, where I open myself up and live an authentic life. This is a place where I hold myself accountable even. And that’s exactly what I am going to do in this upcoming year.
Maybe you already guessed by the title of the blog post but I am introducing you to my no buy year! Sounds exciting? or terrifying? maybe confusing? Yes to all of that. I recently learned of the no buy year online and was fascinated so I researched it. People who spend too much money frivolously on non-essential items such as clothing, housewares, makeup, plants and more. Anything you can imagine people buy in excess…
I think it is important to clarify what a no buy is and is not:
What a no buy is not…
- Buying absolutely nothing at all
- Not buying the things you need
- Not buying food
- Not buying gas for the car
- Not buying medication you need to survive
What is it then?!
- Not buying things casually meaning no frivolous spending
- Not constantly browsing for things to buy online
- Not buying things you don’t need
- Not buying more than what you need
- Buying only enough of what you need
- Buying replacements of or replenishing what you need, if and when your items run out
- Cutting out temptation/unnecessary junk emails (unsubscribe from emails of companies you like to buy from, unfollow Instagram and Facebook, etc.)
- Setting rules and limitations for yourself to follow
- Appreciating what you already have
Alternatively, It can be…
- A low buy – That is to say, instead of buying nothing, you can commit to doing a low buy. Which is just how it sounds. Basically, it’s a budget but it sounds nicer and a little less overwhelming for some people.
What I have learned through my reading of blogs, watching vlogs and a book, that I now love called The Year of Less by Cait Flanders…is that it is important to create your own rules. There is no one way to do a no buy. It can be for any amount of time, some people do it for one month, others for 6 months. I have decided to do it for one year, actually, a lot of people do them for one year, because of the book The Year of Less. I had actually already planned to do my no buy year when I found her book and felt so lucky to find that extra support.
Oh my gosh, why would you even do that!?
I have asked myself this question a million and half times and I probably will continue asking myself why am I doing this over and over again. But my reasons are legit, I promise. I have found that in spending a lot of money I am trying to fill a void inside of me.
I have not mentioned here before that I have C-PTSD (Complex-Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), it is just not something I share with a lot of people but now is the time to be less invisible, it’s in my name! My C-PTSD leaves me with a lot of severe mental health issues that can easily go unchecked. In the last year, my spending habits on things have careened unhealthily out of control. After a lot of introspection and reflection on why this was happening, I realized it was because of my C-PTSD.
Mental health issues can account for impulsive spending habits and our consumerist society certainly doesn’t help. We are constantly bombarded with advertisements on TV, magazines, Facebook, Instagram, and other online sites…These remind us of all the stuff we want and should aspire to have.
Instagram perfect lives are what we all wish to have…but in reality, it’s just a singular pre-arranged filtered moment that someone created to make life seem perfect. What that person doesn’t tell you is how many times they had to snap that selfie to get just the right angle or lighting… or how long it took or much it cost for them to something. Or for stores to use Instagram as a platform to sell you things to have your perfect life. But really it’s all just to make you think you need more.
What I hope to gain from my no buy year
Well aside from having less stuff, in the long run, I plan to declutter things that I no longer need. I will rehome items that I no longer cherish. Find friends who might appreciate items or donate them. I want to appreciate the things I have and just enjoy life…not things. Spending money on stuff will not make me happy.
Over the upcoming months, I will do check-ins, let you all know how I am doing. What I have bought or haven’t bought. In the first 13 days of my no-buy I have bought some things… that I needed. On the few occasions, I wanted things I wrote them down in a log, that I am keeping on an excel spreadsheet…if I still want them in a year maybe I will buy them then… or not. Understand..when I say I want things, these are things that I get in my brain and I feel like I NEED them but I know I don’t… like some makeup or a cute shirt or something that I have no need for. But I keep track of them to see where I end up in a year.
Here’s the courage
In my previous post, My Year of Courage, I basically said this is a big year for me and this is one reason why. I have a lot going on this year and taking on a no-buy is a huge deal and takes a lot of courage…its a big commitment but I am ready for it. My health…physical and mental, need a solid commitment like this to carry me through. I don’t think I have ever committed to such a big undertaking. But I do believe that as a chronically ill person that it will benefit me greatly.
If I am spending less money on junk I don’t need, I will be less stressed out about money and stuff piling up in my home. I am committed to this. And my courage will get me through this, along with my lovely and wonderful support system.
My support system is my boyfriend, Aaron and my friends who will be there for me. Maybe I will feel like I need to buy something and I need to tell someone badly. So I text my friend and tell them about it to help me get through the year… this is the support system I have implemented for myself.
Should you do a no-buy?
That is 100% your decision, but just remember it can be as long or as short as you want. 1 month, 6 months or longer. Just make a commitment and go with it. Google it, research it. Message me and I’ll be happy to talk about it.
Low-buys and no-buys are something to consider this year. If you think you can’t commit to such a thing…think again. Because when I thought about doing it at first…I thought it sounded insane. But I have fully committed. I made a whole plan which I will be sharing with everyone soon.
What to expect from this No Buy commitment
Expect to see what kind of rules and limitations I have set up for myself in the next couple of weeks because this is a crucial part of a no buy. Without rules, doing a no buy would be very difficult if not impossible. In the upcoming months expect updates about how my no buy is going and how it is impacting me, mentally, physically and emotionally.
Join me on my journey as learn what it’s like to not spend money during my no buy.