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Having a support system


A strong support system is crucial for people with chronic illness to survive and thrive. A support system can include family, friends, support group, doctors, other medical or holistic professionals. My support system is coming together nicely. 

The players:

Rachel – The One with IC and more

Debbie – The Mother

Aaron – The Boyfriend

Becca – The Thoughtful One

Shelby – The Cautious Optimist

Christine – The No Funny Business-er

Blinken – The Fluffy Cat

Stanley – The Ninja Cat

Marzipan – The Biggest Little Baby Cat

Ziggy – The Not-So-Nice Cat

Now that we have met the players and their roles. It’s important to understand how all of them will work on a macro and micro level. I know my relationship with each of these people as individuals so on a micro level it’s easy. But on a macro level, the system as a whole should work together fluidly. 

It’s important to find people who you trust, will be there to support you, have your best interest in mind and can be part of a team effort. This can be a difficult task to find a group of people. And for me, as an introvert, I don’t love the idea of having a group of people discussing my well being. But I need a solid plan and a strong support system. Each person

Each person in the support system plays their own role. One or two of them might be better at emotional support. While one might be better at providing support through actions, like someone who comes to see you once a week and cooks you dinner. They are showing you they care about you by being there for you regularly, even if they might not be the best with emotional support. And that’s okay if you have a strong enough support system then it’s good to have a variety of people who can provide different kinds of support. 

I will be planning a huge lifestyle diet change coming up within the next week or so. On Saturday January 7th, my support system will have a round table discussion of what my diet will look like so that we are all on the same page. So I can go hang out with Becca and she already knows that I can’t eat tomatoes because of my IC and there’s a good chance I’ll cut out sugar and processed foods and so on. Everyone who is in my life already knowing will make it easier for me to follow through and be held accountable for my actions. 

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[Image description: left to right Becca, me, Aaron and Shelby standing together and smiling]

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